ADULTING

Being an adult does not mean you stop dreaming. You can still have goals and you can still fight your way. It is never too late. One beautiful thing about being adult is that you already have your basics done. You’ve gotten a job (or will get soon inshaaAllah) so you can earn a living and not leech off your parents. 

With that monthly pay you’ve got, what are you going to do with it? Save for marriage? Go for courses? Travel? You can do just about anything with your hard earned money. 

But here’s the thing, then what? What are you going to do with your life? If you love your job then Alhamdulillah, but what if you don’t? Is it too late to reflect and think what steps can be taken next? Like I’ve said, it is never too late inshaaAllah. 

Starting having dreams and goals again. Make life exciting again. Look forward to some new changes. Do something for the community. Giving back to the community is the best way to make life meaningful again. Plus you get to meet new people.

Some adults have goals and it’s great but, these goals that we want to achieve does not come easy. We really have to work for it. On top of that we often feel at lost and confused on how to achieve this adult dream of ours. 

Just remember, these goals are not instant goals. They take years to achieve. Create 5 year plans. You’ve got a life ahead of you, your 30s, 40s, 50s, InshaaAllah. Failing to achieve anything in adulthood is only another chance to try. Just don’t give up. 

Remind yourselves that life is a long journey and there will be changes, both good and bad. It is how you react to changes that reflect how much you’ve grown.

Last but not least, have fun in life. Enjoy and spend time with your loved ones, family and friends. Despite being constantly tired (especially being a childcare teacher) find time for yourself and the people around you. Because you will definitely need that fun time to recharge.

This serves as a reminder to me as well. At the end of the day ultimately Allah knows what is best for us. Don’t forget to have good intention, have effort and have faith then the rest Allah will take care of it.

May Allah bless you and your family, whoever you maybe (:

BLESSED RAMADAN

Alhamdulillah, in this blessed month of Ramadan, Allah has granted my du’a, to get a job and to be enrolled in the Masters in Counselling Programme. I believe that it is an opportunity to upgrade myself and with the knowledge that I attain, it will be my responsibility to use these skills to help the Ummah. InshaaAllah.

From now till I am 30, inshaaAllah kalau panjang umur, I at least have a set of goals to achieve. Bismillah!

May Allah bless you and your family, whoever you may be (:

WORRIED

I told myself that I would not take another teaching job. And here I am, being offered yet another teaching position. Feeling torn, unsure if I am ready to go through the ordeal of being an educator once again. I am obsequiously certain I would enjoy the children’s company, but what about the responsibilities and the baggage that comes with it?

I am worried. All I can do now is to believe in the path Allah has paved for me. Even more so in Ramadhan. I am still awaiting the outcome of my Masters application. It will be of great help to decide if I know the results. Alas, at the end of the day, Allah knows what is best.

May Allah you and your family, whoever you may be (:

PURPOSE OF LIFE

Shaykh Mendes shared in his talk that Allah has given each and everyone of us a purpose in life. It is our duty to seek our true purpose. More often than not, doing what makes us happy is our reason for living. Our responsibility is to make our goal in life to be of a service to Allah.

Alhamdulillah, I have found my purpose. I believe that I wasn’t named “Nadhirah” by coincident. From the very beginning Allah has placed my purpose in life in my own name, which means, radiance. This itself, is just so beautiful. I hope with my presence I can bring happiness and calmness that gives gratitude to Allah and his Messenger, InshaaAllah.

And I would like to take this opportunity to seek your prayers. I have just submitted my application to pursue my education in counselling, hence, I hope anyone who reads this, put their hands together and make du’a for me. InshaaAllah!

Alhamdulillah. May Allah bless you and your family, whoever you may be (:

PROPHETIC PARENTING

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Alhamdulillah. I have always held tightly onto my belief that children need to grow holistically. Yesterday I had the opportunity to learn and have more insights on the Prophetic parenting. It is good to know that our current early childhood management theories and practices are in line with the Prophetic parenting. The only missing portion would be molding the spiritual being of the child.

I’ve benefited much from this workshop, Alhamdulillah. Although I do not have any children, nor am I married, I believe that with this knowledge I am able to put it to good use for the youths and children I am working with, InshaaAllah.

May Allah bless you and your family, whoever you may be.

P.S: Shaykh Mendes was such a great speaker. I think I am in love. hahahaha.

GOLDEN NUGGETS

Chanced upon two pieces of write up shared by a dear friend. In these two writings, there were two golden nuggets (because I just ate a nugget) that I took away.

If someone thanks you, know that he thanks for Allah. He is not offering thanks to your ego. Stay on the outside of this transaction; you are nothing more than a facilitator, in this transaction, a facilitator of this gratitude between the seeker and the Sought, between the servant and the Master.

Taken from HERE.

The more physical light we have, the more we’re able to see. Likewise, the more spiritual light in your heart, the more of the spiritual world we’re able to see. And this is the objective, the primary benefit of Islamic belief, Islamic law, and Islamic spirituality (Iman, Islam, and Ihsan), of knowing the signs of the Day of Judgment – so that more Light comes into your heart so that you can see the world as it truly is, and you can understand the Universe as it truly is.

Taken from HERE.

In a nutshell, these two articles talked about believers as only a vassal in this world that relays the greatness of Allah and about how we are able to understand our true existence by increasing the spiritual light in our hearts.

Everyone should read these articles. I had such an enlightening moment and realised how little my presence is in the world the Al-Mighty created. SubhanAllah. May Allah bless us with sincere hearts and right intention to serve and obey His commands and may He bless you and your family, whoever you may be (:

FEMINISM

Feminism is about gender equality. But can men and women ever be equal? Just like how you aren’t able to judge the ability of a fish to climb trees, it’s cynical to say men and women should be equal.

Women nowadays are driven, I applaud. But men and women can never equal, even biologically we are very much different. However, we often forget that in Islam, men are the maintainers of women as women holds a much more hefty responsibility of raising the children of the future.

Women shouldn’t be scared to take a step back and focus on themselves, building their Iman. We are talking about shaping the future generation and it is our duty as women to teach our young boys the importance of respecting women and protecting them, not because women are weak, but out of respect for women.

We do not need gender equality. We need the Ummah to know their responsibilities as a man and a woman. Honestly, I am not entirely sure of what exactly is my responsibility as a woman but InshaaAllah, learning about the lives of the wives of the Prophets will give me an insight.

InshaaAllah I will share more about what it means to be a woman in my next post. In the meantime, girls, let’s chill okay. May Allah bless you and your family, whoever you may be (: