I have been observing how women talk to men when they are getting to know each other. Based on my observations, I conclude that women and men FLIRT. They flirt through their eyes, their smiles, their laughter and their text messages. I am actually amazed by my findings. How can women and men flirt with one another without feeling shy about it?
I had to write a letter to confess to my love who I have not spoken in years! (He must have had a shock of his life.) I couldn’t even bring myself to say, “Hi,” back then. How do people flirt, when I can’t even get past, “Hi”? That’s why it amazes me how naturally people flirt.
Flirting is probably a skill, talent even! But I don’t like it. I don’t like the idea of myself flirting with a man and he, flirting with me. I get so uncomfortable and scared till I will apologise and tell him to stop getting to know me. At least, that was what happened anyway.
Gone are the days when men court women with respect, with intent for marriage. Men and women are freely flirting with one another without barriers. I like when a man respect a girl enough to court her by talking realistically, about what they want or need in a marriage.
In other words, the ‘halal’ way of getting to know each other. If the man can respect you before he marries you, imagine how much he’ll respect and care for you after you married him. Isn’t that so much more beautiful than flirting to get to know someone?
Well. at least for me, I hope that my marriage can be in the halal-est way possible. But I have to say that sometimes it is tempting to just go for blind dates that my friends set up for me. I just need to remember that Allah’s timing is the Best Timing and I need to GET A GRIP AND CHILL.
Relax and wait. Allah knows Best, InshaaAllah.
May Allah bless you and your family, whoever you may be (: